Goals: How to Set Achievable Ones :-)

You’ve heard time and time again that you need a goal in order to succeed. I mean, if you don’t know where you’re going, how will you know when you get there right? Goals are important, but all too often we set the wrong ones for ourselves, shoot too far ahead, or give up before we even get started. The key to success is setting goals with a clearly defined purpose so you can track progress and notice your milestones all along the way. So, if you’re eager for success in life, read on.

GOAL SETTING 101:

Here’s the first thing about goals; you have to write them down! Saying your goal to a friend over a glass of wine is not going to make it a goal…it’s simply a wish at that point. You can choose what works best for you as far as goal writing. Some people simply put pen to paper, but if you’re like me life gets busy and you lose the paper therefore the goal gets lost in the shuffle. Posting your goals on a blog or social media site is a great way to stay on track as it will hold you more accountable since the whole of the internet universe now knows you want to drop 20 pounds. Vision boards ROCK for goal setting and there are several ways you can accomplish these. Some people focus on a word (I have a dear friend whose vision boards are works of art!) and they hang as reminders of what they want to accomplish and how they want to feel. My own personal vision boards are usually bullet lists of what I want to do that year and include physical, business, relationship, humanitarian and travel goals all on one big board. Check out different boards online to get inspired (you can find one of mine on Pinterest).

Once your goal/goals are written, take a long, hard look at them and enlist the help of a trusted friend (one that will tell you the whole truth and nothing but the truth) to make sure they are realistic. For example, if you are 5’8″, it would be unhealthy for you to drop down to 100 pounds just because your 5’1″ friend is 100 pounds. Speaking of pounds, it’s best not to set your goals on those unless that is your currency of choice and you want MORE of it…weight is a fickle goal, shoot for inches or possibly size. If you do have weight that needs to be lost (like, your doctor says it’s important) then focus on dropping sizes and inches while increasing strength. Most of my clients realize losses in weight/inches once they set goals adherent to gaining strength…it’s just like magic that way.

Realize that your goal needs a proper timeline to occur and you MUST be willing to admit what you are willing to sacrifice in order to reach your goals. Are you willing to work longer hours to make more money? Are you willing to tackle your freelance career while still working full-time? Are you willing to pry your sore butt out of bed each morning to workout while others are still asleep? Those who are truly successful give up something in order to gain what they want…there is no easy way around it.

Last, don’t rely on fickle motivation to reach your goals. Motivation will fail and wain throughout the day depending on stress levels and overall health. The 2 things you need to reach a goal are discipline and determination, simple as that. Keep these things in check and you will be a success story, whatever your goal may be.

Good luck and keep me posted on YOUR goals!

 

Michelle

 

Weight Loss Secrets: Day 10

Be Resolute

Have you ever wondered why resolutions fail so often? It can seem like a rather blunt question only 4 days in, but think about the resolutions you set last year. Were they all met? Were you just as passionate about them in June as you were in January? Did they hold the same weight all year long?

I was reading a statistic the other day that stated of all the New Year Resolutions, there were 2 that always seemed to make the top of the list. Can you guess them? Finances and Health.  Now, I’m sure you realize that there are MANY resolutions that can fall under both categories, but I’ll let you stick to your own for our purposes here. The exact same statistics also stated that a whopping 60% of people give up on their resolutions by March. Sixty percent! March! That’s not even a full third of the way through people! So, what’s going on here? Better yet, how do we make sure we’re in the 40%?

There are many issues with resolution setting that can either make or break our resolve. That’s what resolutions truly are right? They are tests of our human resolve to change something about our lives and press on toward a goal. Simple as that…. Here are a few ways our resolutions can head South faster than we can down our box of Valentine’s Day chocolates:

  1. We don’t write them down. You have to write it down and make it known in order for it to truly take the form of a goal.
  2. We set unrealistic expectations of ourselves and those around us.
  3. We do not think about the aspects of our life that we truly can control.
  4. We sweat the small stuff.
  5. We don’t re-evaluate.

So, those who can relate to those 5 things are in the 60%. You, however, want to fall into the minority. You want to conquer that resolution once and for all, not let it conquer you. So, what are you to do? I’m glad you asked. :)

  1. Write the thing down! Better yet, tell EVERYBODY! I’m serious here. Start a blog, a Facebook page or Twitter feed dedicated to you conquering this goal. It can be quite empowering AND it is built in accountability.
  2. Find an accountability partner. You need somebody who will slap you right off your pity party train and back to reality. You need a friend that loves you, but does not cater to you. They need to be tough and know that theirs is a truly special job. If you don’t already have that friend in your circle, broaden your circle a bit.
  3. Reverse engineer your goal to make sure it is truly attainable for you. Know what your goal is, then work your way backwards. this is where we think about what it will take to reach our goal and what we may have to give up in order to move forward. This is a VITAL step. It helps prepare you for your goal and it gives you and absolute plan of attack. This step takes you out of the “it sure would be cool if” zone and places smack in the “I’m going to DO THIS” zone.
  4. Know what aspects of your life YOU control. You cannot control emergencies or work drama. You can control what you eat, your workout, and your gossip. Yes, I said it. If you don’t want drama around you stop adding to it!
  5. Don’t sweat the small stuff. So, you had a moment of weakness and the siren call of the Dove dark chocolates was just too much to resist. So you popped in a movie and polished off the bag. Oh no wait, that was me :) . Yours may be a bit different, but here the deal: move on! You missed a workout, ate too much at dinner, sat on your butt instead of working it, worked late when you vowed not to, carried work anger home with you, snapped at the kids, misjudged a friend, forgot to put gas in the car…etc. You are HUMAN! You cannot change that no matter how hard you try. Humans make mistakes. We forget, we indulge, we get lazy. It’s just who we are. Move onward and LET GO.
  6. Re-Evaluate your goals every 6-9 weeks. You may stay on perfect track. If so, please let me know how you do it! If not, it’s OK. Know that you have the freedom to alter goals that are not working for you. In the course of 1 year life can change a lot! I mean, it takes mere seconds to get pregnant and less than a year for a baby to come into this world. Life changes! Be flexible enough to roll with it to ensure success. Be clear with the fact that you are NOT giving up on your goals, simply altering them. Know the difference.

So, what are your action steps today? Maybe you need to sit down and write out those resolutions. Perhaps it’s time to reverse engineer the crud out of them. Do the research! By the way, whatever goal you have, somebody else has already accomplished it. Ask them how they did it! Be an active participant in your own life. Start a blog. Let me know where it is and I’ll be happy to check it out! Work forward every day, never back. Soon enough, you will be in the 40% and we will welcome you with open arms. :)

LIVE OUT LOUD this year!

Michelle

Ready. Set. GOAL!

I had promised that I would share my goals for the new year with you, and I hate to break promises :)

Ambitious goals are what keep life quite interesting in my opinion. These are the goals that begin as just a fleeting thought in the corner of one’s mind, but over time the thought becomes bigger and , in my case, flashier. I do love sparkle and believe everybody’s life could benefit from a bit more.

So, in the spirit of keeping it flashy I will share some of my 2013 GOALS with you:

  1. I am working towards a physical space of my very own. A gym to call my own :) THIS will actually not be as flashy as one may expect since I truly LOVE the feel of a good old garage gym.
  2. I do have physical goals to accomplish this year, but most fall in the realm of strength and endurance, not jean size or numbers.
  3. I have entered and will COMPETE in my very first fitness show this May! I’ll be sharing that journey with you as well.
  4. I will travel to Moldova this month, but have set a goal to travel to Africa this year as well…as often as I can :) I am partnered with Hopechest ministries and will continue to go where I am called, without questioning.
  5. I will finish 2 books this year: 1 is on weight loss and my specific specialty (keeping the skin tight!) and the other will cover my mission trips and tell the stories of the girls who have been caught up in sex trafficking. I will give a voice to those who feel as though theirs has been taken.
  6. In light of #5, one of my final goals is a publishing deal. Why? Publishers get the words to more people.

So, there are the majority of my goals. I always set goals for my personal life as well, working on relationships and growing in my faith daily.

The question I pose to you is “How big are your goals?” Do you stick to the “safe” goals? Maybe you hang around the ones that are a bit easier. Or perhaps you park over the same ones you’ve had for years, knowing if you don’t make it all will not be lost. Friends, those kind of goals keep you simply existing. What would happen if you believed that great things can happen through you? What if you set out to leave a few footprints through this life? What would happen if you decided to stop existing and truly LIVE life as loud as you could? Who might be affected? I’ll be honest, once you change your mindset to make a change, YOU will be the one to benefit the most.

Live out loud this year!

Michelle

GOALS Part 2

Get your pen and paper ready! Today we start to break down your goals so YOU can learn how to tackle and crush any goal you set.

GOALS!!! Effective Goal Setting to Reach ANY Goal