Out with the Old: 5 Steps to Totally ROCK 2015

Another year has slipped by and while some are nursing hangovers (either from alcohol or rich foods) others are getting ready to tackle this year with the vengeance of a Spartan.

Before you dive head first, check out these steps to Totally ROCKING this coming year….and keeping your sanity :)

  1. Use one word. Instead of writing down every goal you want to accomplish, and transferring the ones that weren’t accomplished last year, try setting the tone of your year with ONE word. Believe it or not, 12 months can hold many life events and a whole lot of change. So, instead of writing goals in January that you’ll forget by March, try setting your year up with a word. This word should encompass what you wish to see in your year throughout all facets of your life (work, relationships, creativity, etc.). You can choose any word that really MEANS something to you and then place it on display where you will see it each morning. Here are some examples, but please use what’s in your heart: SUCCESS, LOVE, FORGIVENESS, PRESENCE, ORGANIZATION, KNOWLEDGE, WISDOM, KINDNESS, CONSISTENT, CREATIVE, BOLD, DARING, ADVENTUROUS….you get the picture. Be creative in your own way and let this word speak to you. NOW, about those goals…..
  2. Instead of 1 list of goals once a year, it is far better to set aside some time to write out MONTHLY goals. I know it seems a bit time consuming at first, but writing your goals for each month will enable you to reach far more goals by the end of the year. This gives you a timeline to accomplish your goals and sets you up for success. No more than 10 goals per month you over achievers! Keep it simple, but dream big. Each month, mark off what you have accomplished, then mark off what no longer matters to you, then you can add what is pulling towards your word for the year.
  3. Prioritize. This is a skill that anybody can learn, but few of us want to slow down long enough to do it. Do you ever feel like you are fighting against your true nature? Well, that is a sure-fire sign that your priorities aren’t in line. Take a few minutes to write down EVERYTHING you do (OK, for some this may take more than a few minutes), then start to check off what is either not necessary (like scrolling Facebook all day) or simply doesn’t feed you in any way. Take what is left and begin to prioritize by importance. For me, my top priority is to spend quiet time each morning setting myself up for a positive day. Next is my husband, then my kids. Time with them (together and separately) is highly important, so I make that a priority and no job or client can get into that time. Prioritize by what feeds your soul and you will find that life falls into place more easily.
  4. Have some FUN. I know all this talk about lists and priorities can drag some of us into school mode, so stay with me. Do you remember when you were a kid and you did things just for fun? I mean, I know I did some STUPID things that were just plain fun! Don’t lose that ability as you grow older. Walk barefoot in the grass, sing on the swing set (granted you haven’t gotten old and swing sets now make you sick), go to the zoo, eat the cotton candy (just not all the time), bake cookies, play with your dog, look like an idiot at Disney World! Make time to let go of how you think you should present yourself all the time and make a little time for FUN. This act will keep you balanced and keep stress at bay.
  5. Give back. One of the MOST rewarding aspects of life is giving to others. Choose to make 2015 your year of giving. You can redo your household budget to give more to your local church, charities or missions. You can donate your time to those in need of your talent. Think you don’t have a talent? There are many children who LOVE to read to and have nobody able to do it. Everybody has something to give. Take a treat or meal to your neighbor, give your kids friends a ride, offer to walk somebody’s dog, help your elderly neighbor with grocery shopping. There are ENDLESS ways to give, so tap into your resources and get giving! You will never be the same once you start :) And should you ever want to travel with me, just let me know and I’ll be happy to place you on my team.

There you have it, 5 simple steps that will change this year into a year like no other. Time stops for no man, but we can learn to use the time we have wisely.

Rock on,


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Tough Love Tuesday: the MAIN Difference you need to know about

As always, Tough Love needs a disclaimer: if you need fluffy feel goods, scroll through the posts. I’m all about empowering others to reach their goals and make a difference. This requires tough love sometimes. If you’re ready, read on!

There are several differences in those who reach their goals and those who struggle with their goals. I am in the excellent company of goal reachers just about every day, and have been enlightened to the common habits of those who are most successful in reaching whatever goals they set for themselves. It’s just a few small changes that make a HUGE impact:

  1. We are consistent. We don’t dilly dally with goals. We set them, map them and WORK for them, period. There is no second guessing and there are certainly no excuses. When you’re trying to reach a goal, who has time for excuses?
  2. We don’t complain. This is a HUGE one in and of itself. It probably deserves it’s very own post. We don’t complain about food, meal prep or workouts. We don’t complain about schedules or how difficult things seem in relation to our food and workouts. Complaining will lead to excuse making. I get a lot of complainers online and in the gym Do you know how many clients who spend their time complaining reached any of their goals? ZERO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stop. Right now. Get it out of your way because complaining that the scale isn’t moving (it will move when I chunk it out of the window) or that you’re having meal prep issues, or family stuff, or stress or whatever. People don’t want to hear it and running your mouth burns just about as many calories as stuffing it….so stop.
  3. We think outside the box. What happens when things don’t go as planned? What if you work out after you drop the kids off and then the school calls because your kid is sick? Or what if you depend on a DVD program and your TV explodes? Yeah, life happens. Be grateful you still have life happening (see #2) and move forward. Take your workout outside. On this site alone there are workouts you can do at the park or around a track. Be creative and bust a sweat.
  4. We plan for success. Successful goal planning will lead to goal reaching. We don’t want for it and wish for it (as in: I wish I could get up early and work out…), we work for it.

Changing your mindset will change everything! Take the negative and dump it into the recycle bin of your mind. Work for what you are trying to accomplish. I still get told no and doors still slam in my face…but I don’t quit and I refuse to live defeated. Stop measuring yourself by the scale and start building yourself in the gym (or garage, or track, or whatever floats your fancy). Ultimately, YOU are the reason you win or lose. Make it happen!


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Motivation Monday: Shifting from Neutral to Drive

Good Monday Morning!

Have you noticed that Mondays get a bad rep? I mean, just perusing my Facebook page brought to light that Mondays have it rough. To me, Monday is like a fresh start, a new beginning, a chance to make changes and press ahead! How do I get to this optimistic outlook? I follow a few simple tips to keep my goals and outlook fresh and ready for refinement. This ensures that I don’t allow myself to slip into neutral and become complacent. Want to live a passionate life that’s filled with goal reaching? Read on…

It’s probably no secret that I have issues right? Hey! I mean health issue (although the jury is still out on the psychological issues!). Due to the fact that I didn’t really start to understand the implications of caring for my earthly body until a few years ago, my body seems to have a lot of pent-up anger issues and expresses them in the form of arthritis, inflammation and sciatica, among others. I learned the hard way that simply forcing my body to comply with my wants and goals did not work. The more I would fight against my body, the worse my health would get. It’s during times of flare ups that I am truly tested though. It’s pretty easy for anybody that doesn’;t deal with health issues or the battle of the lazy bones right? What happens when you have to shift?

All too often we simply shift to neutral. We allow ourselves to get down in the dumps and feel as though we’ll never make it. This can happen in the instance of injury, sickness, family emergencies and the general business of life itself. We feel as though we were doing such a great job and then WHAM! we get knocked down. It can be an uneasy and downright nasty feeling, BUT there are a few ways to press on:

  1. Realize that “life balance” is just as elusive as perfection. Nobody’s life is completely balanced all the time. We all have the same number of hours in a day and I have yet to meet the master of balancing everything. As one part of life starts to take more attention, other parts will get less. That is why knowing your true priorities is key to feeling successful. For me, I made my call to missions and my husband and kids my top priority (granted, this took me 10 years to figure out! I’m trying to help you avoid my pain). That meant that some classes and gym time had to be altered or cut altogether. Is it hard? At first, yes, but you get to be quite proficient at it after a few weeks! Prioritize and work within those boundaries.
  2. You CAN re-evaluate and re-structure goals. Who made the rule that you can’t touch a goal once it’s set???? Seriously! What if you made a goal to lose 10 pounds and met it in 2 weeks. Are you completely done with goals? I certainly hope not! Goals can be altered to fit the state of your life. I started the year with some super big goals. One was to compete. This particular goal has been re-evaluated and set aside (for now). Why? Well, if you must be so nosy :) it isn’t lining up with my core values and priorities. I am making trips to teach self-defense to trafficking victims all over the world and my training has been altered to suit THAT goal at this time. See how that works? I’ll give you another example. A few years ago I decided I wanted to leave the house and the business and go work for a LARGE chain gym. I interviewed off the charts and was offered a near 6 figure income. Pretty sweet right? Well, here’s the catch…I would have been working every weekend and over 60 hours a week. This would strip me of my #1 priority. I had to turn it down and turn my trust up a notch! I’m glad I did because shortly after we decided to home school my youngest. Give yourself permission to re-evaluate every 4-6 weeks and see what needs to be altered.
  3. Catch a glimpse of the bigger picture. If your goal happens to be weight loss, health or more money, you will find yourself disappointed more so than not. You see, we need a cause, a bigger picture, a reason so to speak. As I was focused on weight loss, I kept thinking life would be so much better after I lost weight. Well, I became OBSESSED with that goal and priority 1 was out the window. I was seeking the approval and attention of others 24/7. I was getting sick all the time and training myself to the ground. I thought it would be better once the scale cooperated.  Well, at 104 pounds lighter my finances were no better, my kids still fought and after years of trying to fit into smaller sizes the big department chains stopped carrying 0-2. I got thin when it wasn’t cool :) . The bigger picture should have been focused on the health of my family and the reason I was here on earth at all. Change your perception a bit and loosen the reigns on tangible goals. Broaden your mind ;)

By taking the time to set your goals and priorities into alignment, you’ll create a successful life. After all, balance is totally overrated!