Becoming a tea drinker, the LONG road to self acceptance, and staying inspired….the week in review

Hello Lovelies!

Last week seems to have flown by in the blink of an eye. My daughter finishes school (all we have left is math) tomorrow and my son will wrap up on Friday. I have spent the past 2 weeks thinking about schedules and what works best for the family as my schedule has the freedom to change during the Summer. During this time of year, I encourage everybody to look back at each week and recap what happened, what changed, and maybe even what we have all learned.

My new love of tea.

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I have been a coffee drinker since I was a baby. It is part of who I am and a large part of what I enjoy. While coffee has its benefits, it isn’t always good to have it in excess. So, in order to facilitate a more relaxed demeanor (something I REALLY need), I have taken to drinking tea lately. My favorite is a steaming pot of chai tea. Now, I can’t tell you my life has drastically changed, but I do feel pretty good during the day! Maybe the English are onto something with tea breaks during the day…it seems to calm the nerves just right.

Self acceptance, where art thou?????

You may not know this, but I have struggles with self acceptance for…..oh, I guess a little over 36 years! As a matter of fact, I get jealous of voluptuous and curve-filled gals that strut around in swimsuits like it’s nothing…and I saw plenty of that this weekend! My husband and I spent this weekend in Galveston to celebrate our 16th wedding anniversary (thank you very much) and my self-acceptance was at an all-time low. I felt fluffy and sluggish and just not right in all the wrong ways. What does not help is that I was diagnosed with a cyst late last year and this particular cyst has decided to make itself a problem over the past couple of months. Seriously, my abdomen looks as though I could be expecting a small child to walk out in a few months! The appearance, along with my frustration due to the fact that I have a healthy lifestyle (we want that to exempt us…but it doesn’t), had me feeling less than spectacular all weekend.

The issue with self-acceptance is that it has to change with the ever-changing tide of our bodies and minds. You cannot expect your body to look the same every day. I mean, it’s over 70% water right? Have you watched bodies of water? They have an ebb and flow. The ocean is always moving and ever-changing. Even still bodies of water evaporate in the sun and refill during the rain. Our bodies cannot be expected to defy the laws of nature and therefore will not be the same every single day. The pictures that people put up where they always look ripped is because they took those pics on a “good” day (um, guilty!). So don’t compare the state of your body on any given day to that of anybody else. Learn to love the ebb and flow….and keep a wide variety of clothes in the closet ;)

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So far, week 2 of #sharesomethininspiring has been wonderful, especially since I wasn’t feeling inspiring this past week. Inspiration can come from anywhere! So check out the hashtag #sharesomethinginspiring to get re-inspired to your very best self.

Keep living healthy, and remember…there’s a great big life out there! Go live it!

Michelle

When my hardest feels like my least….

UGH…there it was. The hard reality that my house was in desperate need of a good cleaning. Feet were getting dirty from being inside folks! This was it.

Anybody who knows me probably knows I hate cleaning. The way I feel about cleaning is likely the way most people feel about working out! I mean, I would easily rather run a full on marathon and scrub toilets!

The odd flip side to this is that I really don’t like anybody else cleaning either. I hired a great maid service one, but it never happened again. It’s not that I don’t want a clean house or that I like to live in filth (OK, maybe it’s not THAT bad), it’s that I have a martyr issue. I see a sword, and I will fling myself over it. Not before making my family take a good look first though….

Do you ever fall on your own sword? As a wife and mother I don’t think I should have to ask for help from my family, I feel it is owed to me since I help them so much. Anybody else on this train or is it just me?!?!? I point out what I do on top of what I already do. Is that confusing you? Try living with me!

You see, on days when I can only see my sword, I am quick to point out that I have accomplished more in 1 hour than my loved ones have accomplished all day. I mean, I run 2 businesses, have writing deadlines, deal with marketing issues, train for marathons, train others for life events and blah, blah, blah… It can all get to be too much. Not the work itself, but the feeling like “I” am the one doing it ALL.

We were never created to do it all. Even if you’re in the midst of a weight loss battle, you were not created to go it alone. Man was created for companionship. Not only that, but if I look real hard at my Bible study, my eyes begin to open to how I should see my circumstances. Each and every one of “my” things become acts of a grateful servant. These acts are then set up as offerings to the One who bought me, for a steep price. So then, when I see my sword of martyrdom (“I’ll just do it myself!” anybody ever say that?) and feel overwhelmed, I can change my tune….

 Thank You for a house to clean.

Thank You for children to care for.

Thank You for a loving husband.

Thank You for the time to train.

Thank You for the people You bring into my life.

Thank You for the food You provide.

Thank You for Your blessings.

Each and every act of the day can become an act of worship. Now, I won’t lie and tell you I have it all together! Oh, I still fall on my martyr sword more than I like to admit. Perhaps I should put it away ;)

“Strength and dignity are her clothing and her position is strong and secure; she rejoices over the future [the latter day or time to come, knowing that she and her family are in readiness for it]! She opens her mouth in skillful and godly Wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness [giving counsel and instruction]. She looks well to how things go in her household, and the bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) she will not eat.” Proverbs 31: 25-27

Michelle